Imagine that you and your partner must use a sperm donor to conceive a child. Imagine further that, after overcoming the financial and practical hurdles of doing so, and after raising your child together, you discover that you are not recognized as a parent and have no legal rights as a parent under the law.
Many LGBTQ parents face this tragic reality in states across the country, including New York.
Despite being a diverse and inclusive state, New York falls far behind most of the rest of the nation in protecting parents who use assisted reproduction – including surrogacy – to have children. This is why the inclusion of the Child-Parent Security Act (CPSA) in Governor Cuomo’s budget bill last month is so important.
As the Family Law Director at the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR), a feminist-founded LGBTQ legal organization, I have seen firsthand how outdated laws that fail to address assisted reproduction wreak havoc on thousands of families – especially those with LGBTQ and low-income parents. I have also seen how inadequate protections for people acting as surrogates and for sperm and egg donors can cause equally serious harms, particularly for women.
The CPSA would modernize New York law and both protect children born through assisted reproduction and all of the adults involved in creating these families. Low-income parents conceiving through assisted reproduction are often left out of laws that focus on the highest cost forms of assisted reproduction, and these parents cannot afford to go to a state with better laws to conceive.
For a few dollars, parents who can become pregnant can conceive at home using a known sperm donor. Currently, New York statute recognizes only married parents who use a doctor to help them conceive with donated sperm. That omits many families who use a sperm donor to conceive — those who are unmarried, single, or who do not use a doctor. The CPSA would also recognize intended parents regardless of the type of assisted reproduction and regardless of marital status, and ensures that sperm and egg donors are not inappropriately treated as parents.
The bill also provides a vital protection for low-income parents who lack the means or knowledge to consult an attorney or bring a lawsuit to establish their parental rights. New York, like every state, allows an unmarried biological father to sign an acknowledgment of parentage at any hospital, which establishes that they are a parent who must be legally recognized by every state. The CPSA opens this process to parents of any gender who use assisted reproduction. Allowing parents using assisted reproduction to obtain an acknowledgement of parentage is key to making protections a reality for low-income parents.
New York is also currently one of the few remaining states that makes surrogacy illegal, preventing parents who cannot conceive a child – including gay and many bisexual fathers – from having biological children. This bill would allow intended parents to conceive a child while also providing some of the nation’s strongest protections for people acting as surrogates.
This CPSA additionally provides that people acting as surrogates must be able to make their own decisions about their health and body, including whether or not to terminate a pregnancy. Persons acting as surrogates who are compensated also must be given independent representation by a lawyer they choose throughout the process, as well as health and life insurance. The physical risk of surrogacy is born by mostly women who act as surrogates and egg donors, and safeguarding their health right to bodily autonomy is essential.
Modernization of New York’s parenting laws is long overdue. The harm caused by antiquated laws will continue to fall disproportionately on low-income and LGBTQ parents and their children until the Child-Parent Security Act is passed. I thank Governor Cuomo for his support of this important issue and urge the New York Senate and Assembly to pass the budget including this bill.
Cathy Sakimura, Esq. is the Deputy Director and Family Law Director for the National Center for Lesbian Rights and is a national expert in LGBT family law. She is a co-author of “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Family Law”, published by Thomson Reuters.


